Three ways to make an escort's job easier
and maybe even be a better person...
It’s your favorite internet escort/influence-whore, Ellis Hendrix here.
This could be helpful to a select few who take the time to read about, research, or book escorts. We (I) support independent consensual sex work! This is my industry, these are my people.
First, let’s acknowledge that being an escort is rewarding but difficult work. There’s a lot going on behind the scenes most will never witness. Sex workers experience a rawness in their clients (men in my case) that no one will ever know, not even their partners (girlfriends, wives, families).
To show your appreciation for this work, I thought of a few things that make the job better for me personally: this is my disclaimer. You may or may not agree, but I am going to write about it!
Clear, Concise, and Respectful Communication
Booking an escort isn’t much different from booking any other professional service! Ditch the code words & acronyms. Don’t know what I am referring to? Even better! You are speaking to another human, treat us that way! Be polite, know when and where you want to meet, for how long, along with any other pertinent information. Use our names. Avoid toxic online forums that tell you how to speak or communicate with us. Listen to actual sex workers. If we know you are serious from the beginning of our correspondence, then we are more likely to respond in a way in which both of our goals are met. I love when clients introduce themselves, letting me know how they found me while providing any details about their ideal date.
Comfort + Care
When seeing an escort or any sex worker put their comfort first. Whether they are requesting screening information from you or give you specific directions to follow, simply comply. This industry is dangerous. It takes trust for everyone to feel at ease. You’ve done the research to find a professional escort, do everything in your power to make them feel safe. If inviting a provider into your space, make sure it is clean. Offer a sealed beverage. Ask their preference or read their website for more insight into what they may enjoy. It’s always nice to offer someone a bottle of water at bare minimum. Do not open, serve, or order any beverages without the provider being present. Booking an extended date around three hours or more? Feed your provider. There’s nothing worse than being locked in a small room with zero refreshments. Book a dinner date, order room service, cook together! The possibilities are endless.
Appreciation, Tips, and Gifts
While never required, gifts are appreciated. Even better than gifts are tips. Monetary gifts show thoughtfulness. Tips can be any amount. You can tip before or after the date. However tipping beforehand makes you stand out compared to the average client. You will hear that many providers do not require tipping since we set our own rates. I highly doubt anyone would refuse a cash gift. If they do, send it to me. Not one to tip? Take a look at a provider’s gift or wish list. It’s always a pleasant surprise when a client brings an unexpected present from my list. Last but not least is a handwritten note to go with your gift or tip, or as a great stand alone idea. I keep every card I receive from clients. Stick to the wish list. Don’t stray from anything that the provider intentionally lists or asks for. Trust me.
Don’t want to do any of this? That’s cool. You should still have a decent time with your provider. But if you’re looking to have the best time possible, you cannot go wrong with any of the ideas I’ve shared above!